I heard someone speaking that youngs teens have no business out getting candy and they should stay home. Kind of annoyed me & I couldn’t get hearing that old grumpy man out of my head! So here we are….
“Trick or treating is for the little kids and the teens need to stay home!!” & it kind of hit me wrong! Like there’s probably lots of other stuff going on their older friends maybe doing or whatever that they AREN’T EVEN OLD enough to be thinking about, none the less doing!! That’s awesome if they still have that spirit and dress up and go out with their friends and be respectful young adults.
We all have that kid inside of us! It never leaves!! Its only acceptable to let it out for so long!! So the teens who still find the fun in picking out a costume and getting LOTS OF CANDY should go for it & not be told to go home!!
My memories as a kid trick or treating are the best!! I loved Halloween and I loved going to the “fancy neighborhoods”, as we called them, where we would take a pillow case and didn’t go home until it was filled (didn’t take as long in the fancier neighborhoods!) Then we would all go back to one of our houses and check out our goods & sort it out and trade out candy that we didn’t like and check out what other cool stuff we got. You just never knew what all you might get each year! From full size candy bars (that was like hitting the jackpot right there) to cans of pop, or even dollar bills, to the vampire teeth or spider rings!
I am not for sure what age I was when all of that seemed boring or I felt too mature or that I was now too grown up for trick or treating, but chances are i was one of those kids who told my parents I was trick or treating but, actually went to a party or somewhere else I had no business being!! ((Kids don’t be that kid!! You have so much time for the nonsense!!))
The early teens are such hard years. The changing and the difference in how the kids a few years older than them are behaving compared to them or even how much more mature they are than the kids a year or two younger. Such a changing point. Where u figure out your likes and dislikes. A moment when kids mind of start forming clicks and “groups”. A time some kids might be struggling more than others to fit in or be the popular kid.
So being one of those kids who couldn’t wait to grow up and a bit on the wild side, it’s safe to say I probably wasn’t trick or treating at 14 or even 13. So maybe i am wondeeing if that’s why when teens came to door when I was in my 20’s or so, I would think, “Ugh, get a life!! Aren’t you too old for this shit already?!” in my head as I gave them their candy. Maybe it was because I was that kid who grew up way too fast or is it maybe because my kids are getting older and I am going through a mental shock trying to grasp this whole situation while wondering how the hell they are growing up so fast and what should I do in this moment or that moment. Should they be allowed around this person or that. Or is this friend too old for them at this time. Our decisions make their future!
Long story short, it really struck a nerve when I heard that trick or treating was for the little kids & I was thinking, “NO!! Teenagers if you trick or treat than you are no way too old to still have that innocent halloween spirit and DRESS UP and go trick or treating & get excited over getting LOTS OF CANDY!! Enjoy the little things while you can!!
But, they are however, too young for that OTHER stuff that all of the kids at that age start talking about doing or are curious about & some are even experimenting with it….. ALCOHOL! It is actually kind of scary to be honest! So not sure if it’s my past that scares me or the crazy way kids are getting too old for their own good and it’s coming at an earlier age with each group of kids. Scares the hell out of me thinking about my 3 year olds future!
So I guess my conclusion is, after experimenting on my first two kiddos and creating a couple of monsters )(haha-jk jk, sort of but, they sort of are monsters!)) I now after dealing with the 2 big monsters want to try to keep, my mini little monsters in the making, innocence and youth for as LONG as possible!! I feel like I basically grew up with my oldest two and they have taught me as much as i have tried to teach them. I now can’t believe how I couldn’t wait for them to talk and walk and basically, just wished their little lives away!!
I am doing all I can to embrace their sweetness and innocence they still have because once it’s gone, IT IS GONE!! Teenagers are far from innocent and everything BUT, sweet!! Not to mention they think they know it all! I like that age when they are young and ask 21 questions because in their eyes you are the wiser one, and then one day out of no where something changes! Mom no longer knows anything and she is so stupid and old. And from their you find yourself wishing away their lives again. Because you know the day is going to come and they will FINALLY say, YOU WERE RIGHT! And they will know all that stuff you were preaching just wasn’t to preach and annoy them. They will realize that their parents were young once too and yeah they were right 99.9% of the time that they said other wise and argued and just knew their parents just wanted to make life hard.
Having a senior this year puts lots of thoughts in my head as you can see . She is at that age she thinks she has the world by her hands and she shouldn’t have any rules, you know why?? Because she is a senior and almost 18. Ha. My response to that, then act like it. Respect your parents and their rules in their house or if you are so grown, pay rent, maybe a bill or 2 and definitely start buying all of your own stuff. You are not grown until you realize in life there is always rules you have to follow or consequences to pay. So might as well start practicing it now and not get a big head because YOU ARE A SENIOR. Those are only words. I know grown adults who will never grow up!!
Kids are just growing up way too fast these days! We need to keep reminding them how much time they have to do adult activities & once your grown theres no going back!! So if you are bored, be bored already! I don’t even remember what it feels like to have time to be bored or time to myself. Now is the time to find YOURSELF!! Don’t worry about finding that special someone!! You have your whole life to try to please someone else, find your own happiness and that special person will fall into place!!
So to me, teens trick or treating is more than acceptable! I am actually encouraging it! But, I EXPECT to see costumes & ya not just out to cause trouble or have other motives like smashing pumpkins or whatever “the cool” thing to do today is, rather than to get LOTS of candy!!
So if a teenager comes to your door, give them some candy & don’t shame them!! Praise them! Their peers maybe out doing what they think is the “cooler thing” & we would much rather see them trick or treating at 14, than out drinking at a party & the girls under dressing and the drinking leading to things we don’t even want to think about!!
Thanks for reading to all who made it through what was supposed to be my views on trick or treating and then turned into how stressed out being a mom can get!! And how crazy I feel at times!! I have the senior who knows it all, the 14 year old whom is just starting to mature and acts too much like his mama and might just pay me back for my childhood and then there’s the mouthy 10 year old who is often takes lessons from the older two and gets too big for his britches at moments and last but, not least our baby who is in her terrible 2’s just taking it all in and got this thing down already and shows us all who the real boss is!!
Parenting sure is a roller coaster! Full of ups and downs and content worry if you are doing good or what you should or should not do. But, is parents have to stick together!! We all have the same goals and it’s alot easier to accomplish goals when everyone works together to get there!! We all want to raise the best little humans we can!! And the struggle is real!!
I am out on that note!! Hang in there fellow parents!! You are not alone!!